Are you a happy person? That’s a big question. Dictionary.com defines happy as “delighted, pleased or glad, as over a particular thing”. If you watch the new, happiness seems to be in short supply these days. Instead, everyone seems angry and offended and very quick to blame everyone else for their lack of happiness. So how do you create happiness? How do you find what makes you happy and get more of that in your life? First, let’s start with what makes people happy, and if you have followed my blog for any length of time, you know I’m going to dive into personality types to illustrate.
Is your personality what makes you happy?
As a fan and certified trainer of the DISC behavior model, I know every personality type can be happy. What makes each personality type is different, though, and that’s where knowing your personality type can not only help you be happier. It can help you understand why things you have no interest in at all can make someone else happy. It can also help you cheer someone up who has a different personality type than you because you understand that what makes you happy doesn’t make everyone else happy. While I will only be talking about the four main personality types, there are actually 41 personality blends with 20,000 plotting points on the DISC personality chart, so while these ideas cover most of the personality types, some people will differ. You can read more about personality types by clicking here.
What makes a driven personality happy?
We all know this person. They are on the go all the time. They’ve got plans and dreams, and you can either get on board or get out of the way. They are happiest when they have a goal and an endpoint to shoot for. What they sometimes forget is that not everyone shares their enthusiasm for the pace and intensity that suits them. What makes the D personality type happy is control and achievement, and if they can do that with a team, they are in their element. This personality type embraces adventure and challenge, and the bigger, the better.
Is fun the same as happy?
The I personality type is all about the fun, so if you make something fun, the I personality is happy. These are the people who can have fun just to have fun. They can laugh about the silliest things and then laugh about how hard they’re laughing. They lose their happy when there are lots of rules and restrictions because rules and restrictions are boring to them. They are the people who live spontaneously, without apology. They’ll try a new food, a new activity or new hairstyle just to try something new.
When supporting others makes you happy
S types love supporting others. The only thing that makes them happier is knowing that support is appreciated, but not publicly. These sweet people never help for the recognition. They help to make themselves and others feel good. Public recognition embarrasses them and will make them less likely to help in the future. For the more outgoing types, it may seem unbelievable that people don’t want public recognition, but it’s true. For those who share a more reserved demeanor, they’re thinking “yes”!
These folks would rather be right than happy
Being right makes the cautious type happy. Solving puzzles makes them happy. Triumphing makes them happy. Doing it alone and without any public acknowledgement of their triumph makes them happier still. These task oriented, reserved individuals would appreciate a congratulatory email just to them, thank you very much. They don’t even need anyone other than you to know that they succeeded. The world looks best to them in black and white and they love to play by the rules almost as much as they like to win.
So how do you make everyone happy?
The short answer is that you don’t. Each personality type finds happiness in a different way, but each can be happy in their own way. The secret is to let people pursue joy and be happy in their own way whether it’s conquering a challenge, having fun for fun’s sake, supporting others or completing a complicated task. The longer answer is that everyone is a mix of personalities so what makes them happy is incredibly individual, but if you’re willing to listen and try to understand one another, we can all be happy together, and that is priceless. If you would like to learn more about your personality type, you can order your own assessment here or order your copy of Positive Personality Profiles to start your own journey to learning how to be happy with any personality type.Click here for ways to support the Moving Toward Better mission.