What would it take to create a life you love?
Do you think it’s money? If you don’t have any, that’s probably at the top of your list.
How about a loving relationship? Without them, can you create a live you love?
Is fame the ticket? I think we all know the answer to that.
So how do you create a life you love? Let’s find out.
Start with your priorities
Everyone has priorities, but we don’t always live by them.
To create a life you love, living your priorities is essential
For example, if you say your family is your priority, but you spend all your time working, your family may not be your real priority.
Instead, providing for your family financially may be your priority.
If that’s the case, working long hours is fine as long as your family agrees, but I would guess that time with your loved ones is as important to them as financial security.
So how do you reconcile that?
In our case, I stayed home with our children which sometimes meant that my husband worked a second job umpiring softball and officiating volleyball.
It was a great way to help us get out of debt and take care of our family, but our children missed their dad.
To help make our family a priority, we had dinner together nearly every night, and we had weekly family meetings on Sunday to reconnect and go over the upcoming and past weeks’ activities.
It kept my husband connected to our family and made taking the extra jobs a little easier.
Setting your priorities
To set your best life priorities, I highly suggest calling a family meeting.
Give each person time to talk and give input about the week.
When you ask your children what their priorities are, you might be surprised at their answers.
You might even adjust your priorities.
We found out our children were ok with my husband working extra hours, but they also wanted to occasionally go with him.
That gave each of them one on one time with their dad and made them feel special.
Without their input, we never would have considered that.
Shifting from surviving to thriving
One of the biggest shifts for us was to ask our children for help.
In our society, we seem to think that we need to do all of the adult stuff and leave the schoolwork and after school activities to the kids.
When we started having our children help around the house, everything improved and family truly became a team sport.
At three years old, our youngest ran the sweeper and picked up toys.
At six, our children started taking out the garbage, dusting and putting their clothes away.
By nine, each of our boys could do nearly all the household tasks we did on a weekly basis.
The cool part is that each of them had a role in creating a family life we all loved living and by lending a hand, we had more time to have fun as a family too.
Create a financial life you love
So you figured out the home piece.
Ready to tackle your finances?
This is such a loaded subject.
When you suggest that people change their financial habits, they can dig their heels in and will defend bad habits with a vengeance.
Add being raised with different views on money and how to handle it, and finances can be the biggest source of family stress.
Here’s my advice – Figure it out.
Find common ground.
Take the best of what each of you knows and get better at them.
Take the worst of what you know and eliminate it.
For my husband and me, it took Financial Peace University by Dave Ramsey.
Dave’s approach is no nonsense and not for everyone, but we paid off $36,000 of debt in less than three years without a raise.
Even more impressive was saving more than we paid for the program in one month.
It was glorious and even though we still haven’t finished all his baby steps almost ten years later, we have managed to graduate two children from college with zero student loans.
It wasn’t always easy, but it was worth it and our third child is on track to do the same.
Creating relationships you love
Sometimes you save the best for last, and having relationships you love makes everything better.
I am fascinated by relationships and personalities.
It amazes me how differently people see and live in the world based on their personality.
Some are task oriented, and some are people oriented.
Some are outgoing and some are reserved.
Within that are thousands of combinations of personality traits.
Is it any wonder we struggle to connect and understand each other sometimes?
What I learned is that the biggest danger regarding personalities is thinking one way is the right way to be.
The world needs people who are willing to take risks.
It also needs people who remind us to have fun.
We would be lost without those who support others and make everyone look good.
And how about the people who make sure the details get taken care of?
Everyone has something important to contribute to the success of every family, organization and the world.
Thinking one personality type is better or worse than another keeps everyone from being their best.
Learning about your personality and how it relates to others is crucial to creating a life you love.
You can start that process by reading Which of the four Personality Types are you?
To really get to know yourself and your loved ones better, you can listen to the podcast What is DISC and why should I care? and schedule your own DISC Personality Assessment.
When you figure this out, you may be amazed at how much you learn to love your life.
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As always, thanks for being you and have a great day.