The Road Not Taken
Robert Frost (1874–1963)
Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;
Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,
And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.
I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.
Why I like the road less travelled
I’ve loved this poem since college. It speaks to me because I usually take the road less travelled. My husband tells me I’m different from other wives. My children tell me I’m different from other moms, and my friends laugh at my unique perspective on life. Most of the time, I wear that label with honor. I like being different from the average person. When I feel particularly good about myself, that thought strengthens me helps me appreciate my uniqueness.
When unique isn’t fun
On days I question my decisions, that road less travelled is lonely, desolate, and friendless. I become acutely aware that the traits make me different make it difficult to “fit in” with the regular crowd. Those traits keep me from being invited to dinners, to parties, and to vacation with friends. On those darker days, I question if I have made the right choice to follow my own drummer instead of the one so many others do. As I get older, those days are fewer and farther between because the road less travelled gives me so much peace and joy.
The benefits of the less travelled road
The road less travelled is why my husband and I have an incredibly strong marriage and still like each other. After 25 years of marriage, that’s a huge triumph. We dug our way out of debt three times and are sending our boys to college debt free. For people with $76,000+ in credit card debt, that’s no small thing. We raised three very different children to be the most successful human beings possible. My greatest compliment as a mother was a friend saying she admired how I parented each of my children according to their individual needs. I believe by raising your children the same, you’re be doing them a disservice. I maintain my home differently, and it works. We embrace The Five Love Languages, Positive Personality Profiles and The Magic of Fifteen Minutes because they improve our lives daily.
Which road will you choose?
Each of us has the choice to do the normal thing or the thing in our lives that embraces our unique talents. Each choice takes us in a different direction and the bold choice is usually the road not taken. It’s scary to be bold sometimes. It’s lonely and unconventional, but I’ll walk it with you and we’ll celebrate you’re boldness together. You deserve that so you can live your best life. So where will your road less travelled take you? Take those steps and let me know how I can help. Thanks for being you and have a great day!Click here for ways to support the Moving Toward Better mission.