The Road Not Taken
Robert Frost (1874–1963)
Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;
Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,
And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.
I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.
Why I like the road less traveled
I fell in love with this poem in college. It speaks to me because I usually take the road less traveled. My husband tells me I’m different from other wives. My children tell me I’m different from other moms, and my friends laugh and sometimes shake their heads at my unique perspective on life. Most of the time, I wear the label “different” with honor. I like being different from the average person. When I feel particularly good about myself, being different strengthens me and helps me appreciate my uniqueness.
When unique isn’t fun
Some days I question my decisions. On those days, the road less traveled is lonely, desolate, and seemingly friendless. I become acutely aware that the traits that make me different make it difficult to “fit in” with the regular crowd. Those differences keep me from being invited to dinners, to parties, and to vacation with friends and family. On those darker days, I question if I have made the right choice to follow my own drummer instead of the one so many others do. As I get older, those days are fewer and farther between because the road less traveled gives me so much peace and joy.
The benefits of the less traveled road
The road less traveled is why my husband and I have an incredibly strong marriage and still like each other. After 25+ years of marriage, that’s a huge triumph. We dug our way out of debt three times and are sending our boys to college debt free. For people with $76,000+ in credit card debt over the first 12 years of our marriage, that’s no small thing. We raised three very different children to be as successful as they can be. My greatest compliment as a mother came from a friend who said she admired how I parented each of my children according to their individual needs and let them be who they needed to be. I was elated to hear that because I believe by raising your children the same, you do them a disservice. I also maintain my home differently than most, and it works wonderfully for us. We embrace The Five Love Languages, Positive Personality Profiles and The Magic of Fifteen Minutes because they improve our lives daily. If you know them and use them, I am sure they do the same for you. If you don’t, be sure to check them out because they are all live changing.
Which road will you choose?
Each of us has the choice to do the normal thing in our lives or the the one that embraces and uses our unique talents fully. Each choice takes us in a different direction and the bold choice is usually the road not taken. It’s scary to be bold sometimes. It’s sometimes lonely and unconventional, but it’s exciting and fun and if that suits your personality, you’ll never regret it. You deserve to live your best life whichever road you choose. If you choose the road less traveled, where will it take you? TI challenge your to try it and let me know how it goes. Life is either a grand adventure or nothing at all. I choose the daring adventure. How about you?