Live your best life and let the rest go is the tag line for my blog page. It’s something I aspire to do every day. The interesting part is that living my best life changes daily, so life never gets boring. One day living my best life means spending time with family. Another it means doing laundry and keeping up with my home. Still another, it means focusing on writing and blogging and learning to do that better. The power of living your best life is choosing to do it in the first place.
What does live your best life mean?
To live your best life, you must decide what that means. How much money do you want to make? What kind of home do you want to live in? How much is enough? Do you want to travel? What kind of car do you want to drive, if you want to drive at all? Do you want to live in the country or the city or somewhere else entirely? Do you want a traditional life and career or something out of the ordinary? What does your ideal life look like? For me, I wanted to be a mom. I wanted to stay home with my children. To do that, we made choices. We chose a frugal lifestyle, drove older cars and used coupons and sales to get the best deals on clothes and food. It never felt like a sacrifice because I loved my life, and my husband loved having a happy home. While I applaud women, who made different life choices in my book, Everyday Heroes of Motherhood, I know the path I chose is how I live my best life, which does not work for everyone.
Letting the rest go
The real struggle to live your best life lies in letting the rest go. So many wrestle with the decisions they make. Few women I know have life figured out, or so they think. The ones who work all day outside the home struggle with the fact that they feed their kids fast food more than they think they should. Those who stay home worry about providing enough value to the family to justify staying home and not contributing financially. Those who work part time outside the house worry they’re being selfish because they want the best of both worlds. It’s time to let it all go. If you love what you do, let go of the guilt. If you don’t, find a way to change it. One of may favorite mom quotes ever from a mom who worked full time and loved it was that all children thrive when a mom is fulfilled. Truer words were never spoken.
First steps to live your best life
After deciding what living your best life means to you, it’s time to decide what needs to change. I know change is difficult for some people. For those people, instead of focusing on change, focus on improvement. Take little steps and let those who embrace change help you. For people who jump into change with gusto, remember the people around you who stress over change. Show them how positive change improves their life. Help them understand the benefits and how the proposed changes support them in their quest for a better life. So many couples and families fail to live their best lives because some are pushing change and others resist it. Find the balance, and if you need help with that, email me at email@example.com and we’ll work together to find a solution that works for you.
Persistence – the secret to live your best life
You dream and decide what your best life looks like. You create a plan to get there. Then, you start to see progress, and something sets you back. As you’re paying off your credit cards, your car breaks down. You’re exercising and eating right to get in shape, and you twist your ankle. You finally start getting rid of the clutter and realize you accidentally gave away your favorite pair of jean, with $50 in the pocket. These things happen, and they knock you off balance. The trick is to get back up quickly and get back on track. No one ever climbs straight to the top of a mountain. It’s a process. You test out hand and foot holds. You slip sometimes, but you get back up and keep going.
Its ok to be a slow learner
True confession – It took me 10 years to learn how to keep a house because I tried for 8 years to do it everyone else’s way. When I finally embraced the way that worked for me, my home is nearly always ready for company with just a few minutes notice. It took three tries for us to get out of credit card debt and stay out. Each time we got further in debt, I panicked more than the previous time. We tried everyone else’s way, and finally put pieces of several systems together that worked for us. After paying off $36,000 of credit card debt in 2 ½ years, we will graduate our second child without student loan debt next year, and things are looking mighty fine for our third. The truth is that sometimes it takes a while to figure things out, but time will pass regardless so it’s always better to try to live your best life rather than do nothing at all.
What if you need extra help?
One of the most powerful things you can do when you need help is to seek out the help you need. Sometimes that means reading a book or blog by someone who can teach you what you want to learn. Other times that means paying someone to help you reach the goals you know you won’t reach by yourself. I’ve done both, and for the fastest results, hire someone to help you. We think nothing of hiring a coach to help our children excel in school or sports. We mindlessly pay for subscription video and music services, but we hesitate to hire a coach to help us improve our lives. Seems kind of backward, doesn’t it? If you are struggling and need individual help, check out my shop page for resources to help you. Read the books, take the assessments and do what you can on your own, but if you want or need extra help, purchase a coaching session or series of sessions. It would be my honor and privilege to help you. Click here to go to the shop page and choose the option that works for you. Also, sign up to join our email community below. That gets you additional information and first news of upcoming opportunities to improve your life even more.
The world is a better place when we live our best life and let the rest go. What can you do today to make that happen? If you are unsure, start by reading my post The Magic of Fifteen Minutes and send me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org to tell me how I can help and support you in your journey. As always, thanks for being you and have a great day.Click here for ways to support the Moving Toward Better mission.