Developing the best character traits in your kids is a big deal for most parents.
If you have children, odds are that they share personality traits with you and/or their other parent.
They may also have personality traits that are completely different, and you wonder where those traits came from.
In either case, it helps to determine your child’s and your personality type to minimize misunderstanding and struggles and maximize your relationship with one another.
What could be better than that?
When you child is driven and determined
From birth, this pushes and pushes hard.
You rarely have to worry about them hitting infant and childhood milestones because from birth they strive to do more.
These children, unless they have a medical or cognitive condition that prevents it, barrel through life.
As toddlers, they are the children that exclaim, “I do it!”.
Even when they have no idea how to tie their shoes, use a spoon or fork or climb stairs by themselves, they are sure they can.
When you instill a love of learning, these children fly through school.
They thrive on competition, and you can encourage them to achieve nearly anything by tapping into that competitive spirit.
The challenge is to limit that competitive spirit and keep them from becoming callous and uncaring in their pursuit of success.
As teens, these children have no problem questioning authority, including yours.
Without a healthy dose of respect, they will defy house rules, argue constantly and treat others harshly.
As a parent it may feel like your life has become a constant negotiation, and it probably has.
You can try to shut down this child’s full force nature, but it’s exhausting.
This child needs challenge and control, but being practically minded,they also understand consequences.
Give them the challenge and control they need, and they may surprise you with their maturity.
While they are challenging, these are also the teenagers that manage to have a part time job, play varsity sports, have a boyfriend or girlfriend and still keep their grades up because they have plans for their life, maybe bigger than the ones you have for them.
When your child is inspired and interested in people and fun
While the driven child loves challenge and control, the inspired child is all about fun.
They happily go from one activity to the next never worrying about finishing a task or school assignment until the consequences catch up with them.
While they understand the consequences, the consequences are not enough to keep them from getting distracted.
They are generally happy children but can be the epitome of distraction and underachievement.
While some people detest group projects , this personality type is stronger when they work in groups, especially when they work with task oriented people.
The inspired child brings a lightness and playfulness to any group they’re with and balance out the typically more serious task oriented people.
As teenagers, these children join sports teams, not to win or even become a better player. They join to have ready made friends to hang out with.
Their motto is the more the merrier, so the more things they do and try, the happier they will be.
They are eternal optimists, convinced that better opportunities are always coming, and they are willing to risk security for fun and adventure.
When your child seeks security and stability
This child is the reason people love babies.
They are sweet and love to snuggle, and they are gentle, kind and compliant.
They are the children that sit quietly with a few toys and play quietly and serenely, and they convince you that this parenting gig is easy.
The only thing that might drive a parent crazy about this personality type as a toddler is that they want to help you with everything, and it takes some patience to let them.
As teenagers, this personality may enjoy their teens by being the quiet, helper.
These are the students that play in the band and orchestra.
They prefer to decorate and plan the school dances rather than be on Homecoming or Prom court.
They join the tech crew for theater to support those on the stage. In school, they are happy to do well, but don’t feel the need to be at the top of the class.
They’re not that competitive. Parents who want their child to excel may find this child particularly troublesome in high school when competition seems paramount.
These teens don’t see the point, so unless they have a direction they want to go, getting them motivated is a chore.
The best thing is that these kids always seem to make their way in the world, even though it might not be the way that parents envision.
When your child is cautious and careful
In some ways, the cautious and careful child is like the security seeing child.
They tend toward quiet and play by themselves without bothering their parents.
They are the children that love puzzles as long as they are challenging without being impossible for their ability level because they dislike leaving anything undone.
Their frustration comes from not being able to do things perfectly, and have difficulties with hair that is out of place, clothes that don’t fit right and shoes aren’t comfortable, unless that’s the way they want it.
Parents need to understand that these children are not being willfully difficult, most of the time.
Instead, they need parents that understand that they struggle to dismiss the details in life that most people overlook.
This makes them incredibly observant and helps them excel in areas that others can’t because they don’t even see the details this personality notices all the time.
The challenge is to balance their awareness while fostering an ability to let good enough be good enough.
So what do you do about these character traits?
One of the greatest gifts you can give your child and yourself is to understand their personality and your own.
By learning that, you can see where you share traits and where you can help each other with your strengths.
Imagine empowering your child to help you by using their personality traits to help you. To take the next step to determine your child’s personality, read Which of the four personality types are you?
Then move on to the book DISCover Your Team’s Potential or Positive Personality Profiles and schedule your own DISC Assessment and find out how to be the best parent possible while helping your child develop the best character traits for their personality.