Everyone wants to have a happy holiday season, but not everyone knows how to do that. What we love or detest about the holidays is tied closely with our personality, but when you know yourself well, you can make better decisions and have the happiest holiday season possible.
What is a happy holiday season?
For outgoing people, the best part of the holiday season is the activity. For those who are people oriented, the best part of the holiday season is spending time with family and friends. Reserved people like smaller, quieter gatherings, and task oriented people rely on traditions and well thought out gatherings to have a happy holiday season. Very few people get exactly what they want during the holidays, but when people get enough of the things that bring them joy, it’s much easier to adapt and help everyone have a happy holiday season. By understanding the needs of each personality style, including your own, you can make this holiday season the best you and your loved ones can possibly have.
Happy holidays for the Driven personality
People with this personality type thrive on challenge and control. They are doers who typically excel at making decisions and moving forward quickly. For them, the holidays can become a series of to do lists, and while they enjoy ticking off the many activities on their yearly list, their pace can leave other personality types exhausted. Combined with other personality types, they may enjoy entertaining if it’s at their home so they can make the celebration run the way they think is best. These types are not tied to tradition because they love to try new things. They don’t care that grandma made them their stocking when they were a baby, not because they don’t care about grandma but because they are not overly sentimental.
A happy holiday season for the Inspired personality
People with this personality style thrive on fun, especially with others. This personality type loves the social aspect of the holiday season. For them, the more parties, the better. They love to catch up with everyone and talk with as many people as possible. They also love to give gifts that delight others, as long as they don’t mind them in a bag rather than a nicely decorated box. For them, what’s inside is so much more important than the wrapping. They struggle with lists and deadlines. They send their cards out late, if at all. They’re the ones wrapping gifts until 2 am on Christmas Eve because they can’t ignore the deadline anymore. They have grand ideas of baking and cooking for days but end up with ingredients they never use because they forgot they purchased them.
A happy holiday season for the Security Seeking personality
This is the person who loves to make others happy and is happy to stay in the background doing it. Their happy holiday season is complete when their loved ones have a happy holiday season, especially if they get to be part of the fun. They adapt to changing traditions, but they always cherish the past and keep it alive as long as they can. If you have a favorite holiday treat, this personality type makes sure you get some, whether they make it themselves, buy it or have someone else make it. They may also remember your favorite color and wrap your gift in that color or buy a special gift bag just for you. This personality type is happily sentimental and may struggle watching their children grow up and start their own family traditions. Give them time, and they will come around.
Happy holidays for the Cautious personality
This personality lives for tradition and dislikes change. They want to know what to expect, and they don’t particularly like surprises. This personality type prefers to give you a list of approved gifts rather than take the chance on you giving them something they dislike. They put time and energy into their gift giving and often their gift wrapping. When things go to plan, no one celebrates more. When things go awry, no one suffers more than this personality type. They desperately want everything to be perfect and to make their loved ones happy. When that happens, they rejoice. If it doesn’t, they ruminate over it, sometimes for months. When this personality type is in balance, they create magic. Their baked goods, decorations, outfits and gifts are almost always perfect. If this personality is out of balance, they hold on to hurt and disappointment much longer than other personality types. In their head, they know they need to get over whatever upset them, but until they feel balanced again, that is a difficult task indeed.
How do you please all personality types?
Although there are four personality types, there are 41 personality blends and over 40,000 plotting points on the DISC personality grid. With those numbers, it’s a wonder anyone has a happy holiday season, but there are ways to help everyone enjoy this often overwhelming time. To get the most out of the season, it’s best to work to each personality’s strengths. Need to make decisions? Put the Driven personality type in charge but pair them with a people person to take feelings into account. Want to have fun? Ask the Inspired personality type to come up with an idea. Make sure they have someone to help them follow through, though. Want to make sure everyone is included? Ask the security seeking personality for input. Make sure it’s done privately, though, and give them time to process before they answer, hopefully through text or email. Need someone to attend to the details of the holidays? Ask the cautious person to weigh in. Be sure to give them time to process, but also a deadline because they love to ponder.
Lessening the stress for all
Nearly all types stress during the holidays, and holiday stress can lead either to conflict or isolation and neither one helps anyone. Everyone knows a holiday tyrant, ditz, wallflower or perfectionist. Everyone is one of these at some point. Fortunately, when you understand the personality types, you can diffuse difficult situations and help others regain their balance. Want to be a holiday master? Learn more about personality types and how to help everyone have the happiest holiday season ever. You can start with the article Which of the four personality types are you? Then move on to the book DISCover Your Team’s Potential. Finally, check out the Moving Toward Better DISC Assessment Page to schedule a personal assessment and consultation or schedule a training for your group or organization.