Do you hate your to do list and house cleaning?
I used to hate house cleaning and my to do list.
I needed them, but I hated them.
To do lists were a constant reminder of how pathetic I was because I never finished them, and my house was never clean enough.
There was always something that got moved to the next day, and even if I accomplished everything on the list, it never felt like enough.
That, my friends, is what we call stinkinâ thinkinâ, and nothing demotivates you to clean more.
House cleaning came easy for mom
I was raised by a mom who is naturally organized.
She cleaned the house every week.
She relished it and crabbed at us if we âmessed up her clean houseâ for several days after.
My room was never clean enough.
I never cleaned the bathroom thoroughly enough on the first try, and I had no idea how to organize.
Is it any wonder I clashed with my mom about house cleaning and ended up hating it?
Not my mother’s daughter
My mom knew what to do when it came to house cleaning, and she rarely used a list.
I didnât and when I tried, it was never good enough, so I thought I would try a to do list.
It sounded like a good idea.
It organized tasks for my disorganized brain.
The problem was that it felt like a punishment.
When I looked at that list, especially when it felt like the same list day after day, I felt defeated and worthless and frustrated.
I just couldnât do everything on the list like my mom did, so I must be a failure as a housewife, right?
Does your life look like your mom’s?
Here’s the thing.
I never aspired to have a house as clean as my mom’s because I didn’t want to spend the amount of time she spent cleaning.
She didn’t have a child with extraordinary needs to take care of.
I wanted to do fun things with my kids and have a life beyond taking care of my house all day.
My mom never played a game or watched a movie with us during the day.
She didnât go swimming with us, take us to the zoo or go with us to the local amusement park on a regular basis.
Instead, we went to the zoo and the amusement park once during the summer, and the only time I ever remember my mom swimming with me was on a camping trip when the temperatures reach triple digits.
So, I was a fun mom, but my house was still a wreck.
With an immune compromised child that was not good.
I realized I couldnât do things like my mom did, or I would be an angry, frustrated woman.
There had to be more to life than having a spotless home.
For me, that meant hanging out with my kids and being the fun mom when they were little and starting my own business when they got older, but I hated having a messy house.
It took some time, but I finally figured it out.
First, I changed my language.
Instead of cleaning my house because of my family, I focused on blessing my family with a clean and comfortable home.
It’s much easier to clean a toilet when you think about how clean you want your bathroom to be if one of your family members gets sick or someone you love stops over.
Vacuuming is easier when it means your children can crawl around the floor and not have dirty knees and toes.
Cleaning for my family rather than because of them changed my attitude and made me hate house cleaning less, and it can do the same for you.
Making your to do list your own
Did your mom have a house cleaning day?
My mom did, and I did everything I could to get away from the house on that day.
Hours of cleaning is not my idea of fun.
Gutting it out so you could enjoy a clean house for a day or two before you started yelling at the kids for being messy?
I could hardly wait to grow up so I didn’t have to do that.
Unfortunately, I didn’t know any other way, so I tried to duplicate what my mom did.
Any idea how that worked out?
Yeah. Not good.
I learned to break those blessings down into smaller time increments.
Sounds weird, but hear me out.
Iâm not going to clean a house for four hours.
That is pure torture for me, but I can happily clean for 15-30 minutes.
Now, I know what youâre thinking.
Youâre thinking thereâs no way I can keep my house clean in 15-30 minutes per day.
I disagree, because I’m proof that you can, and best of all, I will show you how.
These two concepts will launch you on a journey to take back your home 15 minutes at a time.
Donât believe me?
I double dog dare you to try two 15-minute sessions for one week and let me know what happens.
Iâm telling you, itâs magic.
Better yet, sign up below for the Whole Home Reset, and I’ll show you how to do it step by step.
How cool is that?
Making peace with the to do list
Want a simple solution to hating your to do list?
Stop calling it that.
I now refer to it as today’s list.
It sounds simple, I know, but simple solutions are often the most powerful, and when you Change Your Words, you change your life.
Now I keep a master list of things I would like to accomplish in the near future that I update daily.
I have a list of daily blessings that I keep in a sheet protector on my fridge that I mark of with a dry erase marker, and I have a daily planner that I keep track of everything I accomplish in a day.
Writing down daily triumphs and accomplishments is an emotional boost, especially on those days you feel like you didn’t accomplish anything.
The triumphs may not be what I set out to accomplish, but it reminds me how much I do each day.
Transforming your life through easy house cleaning?
If I learned to make peace with my to do list and house cleaning, anyone can.Â
Iâm the girl who had a messy room growing up, who left shoes everywhere, whose car needed cleaning before passengers could ride in it.Â
I needed at least a dayâs notice for a visit and a week for an overnight guest, and I exhausted myself regularly prepping for birthday parties, holiday gatherings and play dates.
That all went away when I learned what to do and the best way to do it for me.
The best part is that while these principles work for everyone, everyoneâs system ends up a little bit different, and thatâs the way it should be.
We all hate our to do lists less and succeed with cleaning our house more.
I love that.
What to do next
Are you ready to get started?
Sign up for the Whole Home Reset below.
Do those 15-minute sessions daily.
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Get the book What Your Clutter is trying to Tell You and add a 15 minute declutter session to your day.
I know that last thing you want to hear is that it’s easy to get and keep your home clean, so I’m not going to tell you that.
What I am going to tell you is that it can be easier, and you can feel like you’ve got this sooner than you think.
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