Affirmations are one of those things that people love to roll their eyes about. Some think they are silly. Some think they are pointless, but whether they realize it or not, people affirm their beliefs every moment of every day.
At the beginning of the year, our family got Netflix for the first time. I found a few shows and a few movies that were interesting. I watched The Crown episodes as a reward for blogging successes. My husband and I would settle in for an episode or two of The Great British Baking Show each evening. I enjoyed the shows and the few movies we watched, but I found out what the term binge watching meant when I discovered the Queer Eye reboot, but not for the reasons you might think.
The Fab Five and the Good Ole Boy
The first episode is about Tom, a good ole boy from Kentucky living in Georgia. Tom’s signature line when he meets “the Fab Five” as the regulars are called is, “You can’t fix ugly”. He calls himself dumb and ugly through most of the show, and although it’s a horrible affirmation, you know he believes it. The amazing thing about the Fab Five is they refuse to let him continue that behavior. These men, who you find out later have been through their own tough times, pour positive affirmation after positive affirmation into Tom until even he tells them they fixed ugly. I was hooked, and every episode was the same. These men pour positive affirmations into everyone they helped. I can hardly wait until season two drops because I binge watched the first season, crying happy tears in each one and making my husband watch them a second time with me.
The Fab Five Journey
Even cooler is in several episodes, the Fab Five show how they learned to be so positive about themselves with a lifestyle some disagree with. Each is confident and happy and comfortable with who they are. More importantly, they are teaching others to feel the same way. When you add that these men are doing this in Georgia in the middle of the Bible belt, those affirmations and confidence are even more extraordinary.
Affirmations without your own Fab Five
So what do you do since you don’t have the Fab Five to come pour their positive vibes into you? Do it yourself. That’s the best way. Start when you look in the mirror. I know. You hate looking at yourself in the mirror. Some of you never look yourself directly in the eye because you don’t like what you see. That stops today. Starting now, every time you see your reflection in the mirror say something nice about yourself. If you’re alone, say it out loud. If someone is there, say it silently. I don’t care if you start with telling yourself you look better than yesterday or when you had that horrible perm or bad haircut. Start saying something positive when you look at your reflection in the mirror.
A step further
When you’ve got that down, take a big step and tell that person looking at you in the mirror that you like them. Yep, look yourself in the eye and say, “I like you”. You might feel weird, but this works. Say that for 30 days straight, and you will notice a shift. You’ll start looking for things to compliment yourself about, and you might start complimenting others in the process. You might also teach your children to think better about themselves. If you need a role model, this is one of my favorite videos about affirmations. Click here to see the video. Seriously, if a child can look at herself and say those things, why not you? The thing is that we say affirmations all the time. All I’m asking is that we think about what we habitually say and think about improving the quality of those affirmations.
Be the person you want your children to be
If you have children, do you want your children to grow up saying the same things to themselves that you say to yourself? If not, try what I’ve suggested and see how your attitude changes. Say the things you want your children to say to themselves, what you want your loved ones to say to you and how you really want to feel. Does it sound like lying? Try this. If you want your daughters to love their bodies, but you dislike yours, take a step in the right direction and refuse to criticize. Every time you’re tempted to say you’re fat or ugly, think about your child saying it and re-frame you attitude. Apologize to your body. Yes, I know it sounds weird, but humor me for a minute. Tell your body that you’re sorry for being so mean, and that you will be more respectful in the future because even if you don’t like your body, you can be respectful toward it. That’s an affirmation that most women I know can definitely benefit from.
Learn, do, then teach
Once you learn how to do this for yourself, teach your children. If you want help with that, please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. By this time next year, we can all feel better about ourselves and teach those we love to do the same. Are you ready? Who do you want to be in a year? Start affirming that now and take those affirmations with you into the world. For more motivation and uplifting ideas, sign up below for 9 Life Hacks for People Who Hate Mornings. This will make you a member of our email community, so welcome aboard! As always, thanks for being you and have a great day.
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